Last Wednesday night was a big night in our house.
For days and days possibly weeks Ever had been struggling with a loose tooth - a molar. You know the ones — they hurt worse when when they are loose then when they actually come out. Finally - Ever was the one that successfully pulled the tooth with the help of some dental floss. Cheers were heard all around the world!
She took the tooth and put it in her Tooth Fairy pillow when it was time to go to bed with hopes of a visit. Just before Jeff went to bed he walked into her room to place the Tooth Fairy’s reward in its proper place. Little did he know Ever had just gotten up to change PJs (she often does - because she can’t stand to be hot when she sleeps) and she was awake…
As soon as Jeff came to bed Ever stormed into our bedroom. “I SAW YOU! I SAW YOU! I SAW YOU PUT THAT MONEY UNDER MY PILLOW!” “No you didn’t, I just came into to kiss you goodnight.” “YOU DIDN’T KISS ME!”
Tears, and tears followed. Ever was beyond mad to say the least. All of the emotions of what potentially is make believe filled her sweet mind. It was a moment. One of those moments that not only defines childhood but parenthood. It’s when some of the “wonder” of being a child is kinda crushed by reality. It was so sad. They both were so devastated.
It was like we jumped straight into the next phase of parenting. Like we ripped a bandaid off and said - “Ok, so some things in life aren't as rosy colored as you’d hoped. You’re eyes are open now lets grow up.” A sense of play ended so quickly.
The next morning she woke up so sad. Sad to step into her day with a different view. She said “I feel so stupid that I believed fairies are real” I said “baby, you can believe that fairies are real. I love to think about our backyard and imagine that fairies live out there - it’s kinda the most perfect place for that. It’s ok to imagine and dream.”
Now - we have to make sure that she finds the WONDER in everyday life. Not the make believe wonder but the real life wonder. The wonder in who she is, who God created her to be and the all of the amazing things she was made to accomplish. We have to help her become fascinated.
As grown ups I think we all lose that child like fascination with life, and we shouldn’t. Just like Ever, we are created to create, dream, do, bless and change the world purely by our fascination of what’s possible. Yes, today she feels like her rainbow has been crushed a little, but that means it’s our job to put a little fairy dust on it, and help her see just how amazing life is even without all the make believe.